Turn on the television for more than five minutes and you will be bombarded with messages of how to be happy....just buy this, pluck that, lose him, add her, live here, vacation there, and you will be HAPPY! But for how long? For anyone having experience with chasing happiness, you know that it is fleeting. It may bring satisfaction for a short period of time; however eventually it fades, doesn't last as long or go as deep. Buying or getting more and more things is one way that I see people trying to get happiness. Another is sin. Choosing for sin is what some consider a fast way to happiness...whether through drugs, adultery, greed, gambling, etc.
It saddens me when I see a married couple come in for counseling in which one unhappily married spouse secretly wants his/her counselor to say it is okay to leave the marriage in order to chase happiness elsewhere. Now I am not talking about someone who is being abused, experiencing adultery, etc. I am speaking about those who are just miserable and bitter with the person he or she is with and see that the only way to change his/her situation is to divorce.
God is very clear that He HATES divorce and wants us to do everything to reconcile the marriage. He wants us to choose to be invested and not just have our empty & disconnected body be there. For some, this means tending to deep wounds and bridging years of miscommunication or little communication. For others, it means seeing our spouse through God's eyes and not our human ones that only want to keep record of all wrongs to report to the counselor. Our God is the same one who parted the Red Sea and He can perform a miracle in your marriage. To be obedient to the Lord and follow Jesus means to look at how you can change. Instead of looking for better complaints, look at how you can serve your spouse better. Then pray that your spouse does the same.
If we pursue holiness---meaning to become more like Jesus---then we will have joy. Joy is different then happiness. Happiness is ALWAYS short-lived. Joy is not. Joy remains in the midst of the worst, best and/or mundane. It is exciting to be able to see our bodies multi-task with our emotions. We might be devastated about a job loss yet peaceful that the Lord has a path for provision and joy that He hasn't left us. We see this in James 1:2: "Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials."
I have personally seen God heal marriages suffering with multiple infidelities, deep hurts and neglect, so don't give up hope with yours. I pray Romans 15:13 for you, "Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you will abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit."
If you are in a bad situation of any type where you are in a viscious cycle chasing or longing for happiness, seek out a counselor or pastor in whom you can confide and seek Godly counsel to get relief through the Lord. If you have no one to turn to, feel free to contact HIS Creations Ministries to get connected with a quality, caring counselor today.