Have you ever wondered how you are doing in your marriage? It takes a level of risk and vulnerability to ask this question (even to yourself) because you will inevitably discover things upon which you can improve. The hardest part for some may be committing to a self-assessment with no guarantee that your spouse may be interested in or committed to doing the same.
If you are up for a challenge, then continue reading. Chapter 13 in I Corinthians (in the Bible) is all about love. We can see many things when reading it including a checklist of 16 areas that need addressed. Let's see how you do as we apply it to your marriage...
...am I patient with my spouse?
...am I kind to my spouse?
...am I content with my spouse?
...am I humble with my spouse?
...am I serving my spouse?
...am I gentle with my spouse?
...do I put my spouse first?
...do I keep my cool with my spouse?
...do I let go of keeping tabs of my spouse's sin?
...am I compassionate w/my spouse when they sin?
...am I happy when my spouse is honest?
...do I tolerate my spouse's flaws?
...do I trust God with my spouse/marriage?
...do I look for the best in my spouse?
...am I hopeful for the future with my spouse?
...am I determined to be committed to my spouse?
How did you do? Your goal is to have the most check marks in the "Daily" column. If not, ask the Lord to help you see your spouse the way that He does and to show you how to move forward in giving your spouse the grace and mercy that God gives us. Consider committing to changing for one month, then go through this checklist again to look for your improvements.
We often think of love as an emotion with which we have little control. However all 16 items above combined form God's definition of love. This is an encouragement to each of you to continue to improve and in doing so, adding to the love in your marriage. This is what that Lord desires from us as we follow Him.